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Long distance woes
About three weeks ago I had to move away from my fiance. Although I have been trying to keep busy to make the time pass quickly before we are together again, I have been feeling withdrawn in other aspects of my life. It doesn't help that I work odd hours. It's easier to sit around and feel sorry for myself when all of my friends are busy working. And it also doesn't help that they are married, or long-term dating and see their loved one daily. I'm trying to be strong and trying not to pass my blues off on all of my friends and family all of the time. I know I shouldn't complain. We will be together again soon and other people have gone through worse, but my friends who seem like they can't do anything without their sig. others are bumming me out. What do I do???
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Permalink Reply by Jamie Bull on -
While my girlfriend and I moved apart a few years ago for school, we had to find easy little ways to stay connected with each other's lives despite being so far away.
We each got Skype so that we could talk as long as we wanted over the computer without worrying about using up our entire cell plan.
Also, sending eachother messages through Facebook, or emailing each other pictures of what we were doing that day, or things we saw around town that reminded us of the other made the distance seem much smaller.
Individually, each of the little ways wasn't much, but they added up to make a big difference.
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Permalink Reply by Yolander Prinzel on -
Did you move away from your friends too, or do you have some new ones where you live? You can have a girl's night out every couple of weeks, which should help you get some quality time with out all that "schmoopy" business making you miss your HTB more.
If I were you, I would look at this as the last hoorah before you enter married life and I'd take some classes. Once you're married, for the first few years anyway, you won't want to take French classes, cooking classes, painting lessons etc. while your husband sits at home by himself. These classes also get you out of the house and help you meet new people who might even be in the same boat as you.
I agree with Jamie--especially re: Skype, but don't neglect yourself right now. You aren't just a person on pause waiting for life to start--it's here right now :)
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Permalink Reply by Rough Times on -
Thanks so much both of you. We do talk everyday. We have the same cell phone service, so we don't have to worry about minutes which is nice. We get into stupid arguements though...I think it's because we are both a little bit grumpy because we are apart. It sucks but it's just a small part of our lives. I tried the girls night out thing....not working so far. I'm going to keep at it though. I have a weekend off coming up, I'm planning on going to my parents' house which will keep me occupied. I really just get on here to find some support on my really down days....like today. So thanks a bunch, I appreciate your words of kindness and support. Hope you have a good day.
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Permalink Reply by Yolander Prinzel on
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I'm glad to hear you both are able to talk so often, and the arguments make sense--it's so hard to cover everything and be emotionally satisfied via phone. If I were you, I could see burying myself in a good book on my down days...but I guess that's an unhealthy form of escapism. Maybe an art class or something?
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